What Stresses You Out?
Stress seems to fall into categories.
For example, if you have low self esteem, you may be routinely sensitive to questions about your character, integrity or appearance. You may feel you have to justify yourself to be heard. You may feel searing jealousy towards those who have more than you do (a vicious cycle, a form of self-hate – there will always be people who have more than you.) This predisposition to negativity leaves you feeling stressed out and frustrated. Like, all the time.
If you are a high achieving person, or perfectionist, a cunningly deceptive form of low esteem and self-loathing, you will feel out of control when some aspect of your life is out of order, you will freak out when you bring home a new product and it doesn’t work, you will judge people needlessly, you may want to scream when someone else’s behaviour is inappropriate or rude, you’ll be intolerant of everyday normal human mistakes and foibles, you may feel actual physical or mental discomfort if your world doesn’t appear as pristine and perfect as you think it should. And you’ll be chronically unhappy, never fulfilled.
If you’re an all or nothing thinker, you may only see the world in black and white. Thus, if you succeed at something, you’ll believe you could have done better. If you fail at something, your life is a complete mess. If someone has a bad day and lashes out at you, you take it personally. You might even blame all the failures of your life on everyone else, because all or nothing thinking is a direct result of not looking inward but rather outward, to others, for your answers and self-esteem. A prescription for seriously low self-worth.
In which of these categories do you fit? Do you see the potential stress within these categories?
Once you identify the triggers, you can then determine which ones consistently set you off. Then progress will begin. You’ll start to ‘own’ your stress and accept it. Whilst in moving forward mode, you’ll be surprised by how regularly stress triggers implode upon you, overtake you, causing your chest to seize, your hands to tighten, your breathing to race, the eyes to roll, anger to rise, sweat to…you get it.
If you care about the ongoing state of your health and wellness, it’s essential that you identify your personal stress sources. Otherwise, these bubbles are going to dance with you for quite some time.
Start by stepping back. Observe your own behaviour for a few days. Then catch yourself in a stressful moment, tag it, name it, write it down. Whatever you choose.
Did you catch yourself in a stressful moment? Did you see how your body reacted? Did you say “Wow?”