What Are Your Stress Triggers?


What causes you the most stress?

Is it specific circumstances, unpleasant feelings or the existence of people in your life?

All of the above?

Don’t feel badly about this. You are hardly alone.

Says Columbia Center For Psychiatry: “Stress is something that most people experience on a daily basis. Stress is defined as our reaction to events, environmental or internal, that are associated with substantial adaptive demands that tax or exceed our adaptive resources.”

What is it about specific stressful events, circumstances and people that triggers you? Have you ever thought about that? Or do you merely work on automatic pilot, and let life and stress happen to you?

Here’s the reality: it is when you began to unravel your stress triggers that you can began to sort them out and understand them – one by one. And then you can begin to work on making that stress more manageable.

Questions To Ask Yourself About Stress

Who upsets you, and why? 

What makes you feel powerless?

When are you the most vulnerable?

Where do feel the most tense?

Why do these specific issues bother you?

If you answer these fundamental questions, you will increasingly understand how your levels of stress rise. 

It’s also important to understand your essential character and temperament.

Are you an extrovert? An introvert? A highly sensitive person? Read here to find out why temperament is so important in understanding the way you manifest stress.

How Personality Traits And Stress Are Connected

If you have low self esteem,  you may be routinely sensitive to questions about your integrity or appearance. You may feel you have to justify yourself to be heard.

You may unconsciously deal with guilt. You may be a relentless people pleaser. You may have traumatic issues in your past that sit unresolved. You may feel searing jealousy towards those who have more than you do. And you may be incapable of saying the word “No.

Manifestations of low self-worth leave you feeling stressed, exhausted and frustrated.

If you are a high achieving person, or perfectionist (a cunningly deceptive form of low esteem and self-loathing) you will feel out of control when some aspect of your life is out of order.

You may explode when you bring home a new product and it doesn’t work, you will judge people needlessly, you’ll be intolerant of everyday human mistakes and foibles.

You may feel actual physical or mental discomfort if your world doesn’t appear as pristine as you think it should. And you’ll be chronically unhappy, never fulfilled.

If you’re an all or nothing thinker, you may only see the world in black and white. Thus, if you succeed at something, you’ll believe you could have done better. If you fail at something, your life is a complete mess. If someone has a bad day and lashes out at you, you take it personally.

You might even blame all the failures of your life on everyone else, because all or nothing thinking is a direct result of not looking inward, but outward for validation.

And these are just a few manifestations of stress and anxiety!

In What Category Do You Fit?

The potential stressors inherent in personalities and temperament are obvious. To identify them, professional help is often required, because they are often longstanding unconscious behaviours.

However you arrive at your own conclusions about how stress affects you, the outcome is always liberating.

You’ll start to ‘own’ your stress, accept it, and work to mitigate it. You’ll be more objective and aware of how stress triggers affect you.

Start slowly. Start by stepping back. Observe your own behaviour for a few days. When you catch yourself in a stressful moment, tag it, name it, write it down. Keep a journal if you choose.

When you catch yourself in a highly stressful moment, observe your body language, see who is present, try to identify what happened.

That’s the first step.

Stress is what happens to all of us, every single day. The good news is that once you identify a pattern of reactions – from yourself- you can assess ways to reduce the stress in that area, so that you can be a healthier, more content person.

And that’s what this blog is all about.


For More Information:

“19 Ways To Genuinely Manage Stress” www.stressbubbles.com

What Are Your Stress Triggers? A Test –http://psychologytoday.tests.psychtests.com/take_test.php?idRegTest=3362

“Stress Management” http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress/art-20046037

This entry was posted on Thursday, July 26th, 2012 at 6:00 am and is filed under Posts. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed.



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  1. November 4th, 2014 | Mike says:

    Thanks for sharing such a great article. This will benefit a lot of people including myself. I’ve retweeted this for you as I think it’s so brilliant! :)

  2. November 4th, 2014 | abby says:

    Thanks for your lovely comments Mike. And for sharing the article. And you know what? I am working through all this stuff too… just like you, just like everyone else. We are all a work in progress…we just have to keep trying, right?

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