You Need it…But Do You “Want” It?
It’s a fabulous method of relaxation; one that is unparalleled. It’s my “go to” when life gets frantic. It’s taken me a very long time to understand how to use it. At first, it’s hard to grasp.
But… you gotta try it!
It’s called meditation. (You knew that, didn’t you.)
When I was introduced to meditation in my 30s, I was endlessly busy with young children, writing career, husband, family obligations, side commitments, cooking/cleaning/bottlewashing (?),volunteering, the whole nine yards of classic Super Mom Chaos.
My foray into meditation was unsuccessful at that time. I wasn’t ready for it. The idea of lying there, doing nothing: absurd?
Years later, out of pure fear, I latched on to meditation with a ferocious, desperate intensity, hoping it would alleviate my depression. That approach didn’t work, either. Too much expectation.
Here is the fact: one has to be “ready” to meditate. The conditions have to be right. You can’t force meditation, you can’t make others like it or want to ‘do’ it. A person has to want to learn the practice.
How does that ‘want’ evolve? It’s probably different for everybody. But once meditation readiness arrives, it is a gift.
A meditation practice slows life down. It helps you escape from the incessant chatter of your life. It places you in state of blissful detachment that’s indescribably soothing. It delivers quiet, warm soothing calm.
Ideally, it’s best performed as a routine practice, not unlike daily brushing and flossing (well) before you see a dentist. It also works beautifully, once you’ve practiced a while, on an “at need” basis.
Basically a mental massage, meditation reminds you how distracted, unfocused and rattled you are on the one hand; then it trains you, over time and practice, to effortlessly put a lid on the noise. And from this you can carry calm into your life, benefitting everyone.
Practitioners sometimes fall into a glorious slumber while meditating, something that purists may frown upon. Meditation is intended to be an ‘exercise,’, not a sleeping aide. But if sleep is urgently needed, so be it. When it comes to meditation, I don’t believe in strict rules – as long as the goal of calming your mind and body is achieved.
In the next post, I will feature the work of women whose contributions in the meditative field have been invaluable to me, whose approach I particularly like. I will offer more details about how meditation works, how best to try it. I will provide links to youtube and online meditations, free for you to try.
In my life, meditation is now a blessing, an instant refuge from stress, a way I offer myself self-compassion. Meditation is in fact a practice that can change your life.
Have you incorporated meditation into your life? Share your stories with me, so we can pass the good news onto others!