Meditation: Hello To Comfort And Calm



I want to be able to relax with meditation, be comforted by it as others are…but I’m not doing it right!

Such a familiar refrain.

So many of us are confused by ‘how to enjoy’ or be comforted by ‘proper’ meditation ‘techniques.’

As mentioned in my previous post, while meditation does require time and patience, you need not observe a prescribed, strict, set of meditation techniques to derive signficiant benefits.


But Don’t I Have To Do It “Right?”

Forget about that.

I meditate one way: My Way. You can do the same.

I once tried to follow the conventional processes, by sitting up ramrod straight, cross-legged, palms raised.

And the result was back strain, sore wrists, body fatigue, concentration loss.

Forget guidelines that don’t work for you;  it’s the ‘doing’ that matters, and the outcome.

Meditation results in more calm, increased stress awareness and less tension. It’s there for you to practice, whenever you need it.

Just imagine a meditation guide saying to you (in a manner of speaking) over and over again: “It’s Going to Be Alright. It’s Going to Be Alright.”

That’s what you can expect from a meditation practice: kind gentle reassurance. You learn, through the breathing, the mantras, the stillness… that everything in life, good or bad, will be alright.

Yes, it is beneficial to practice meditation regularly. But you don’t have to. You can meditate when you want or need to.

Sounds reasonable, doesn’t it?

My Basic Meditation Techniques

If, right now you are anxious, upset, overwhelmed, not sleeping?

Just try this.

  1. Remove all interruptive elements – children, spouse, pets, all forms of extraneous technology.
  2. Turn out the lights in the room.
  3. Get into a bed. Pull up the covers.
  4. Put a warm heating pad on your stomach.
  5. Put an eyeshade on, especially if prone to visual distractions.
  6. Put on headphones (for listening to a guided meditation.)
  7. Get comfortable in the bed.
  8. Lie on your back.
  9. Load this simple youtube meditation (courtesy of  Lara Patriquin.) (Or try other guided meditations. There are many available online. Find one of a length and style that works for you.)
  10. Follow the guide’s words –  to the best of your ability. Don’t worry a whit if you have a million thoughts that cross your mind while the guide is ‘talking’ to you. This is normal; these thoughts will ebb and flow, even recede as your practice increases in frequency. The racing thoughts will also educate you. How? Find out!

But I’m Still Not Doing It Right

There is no perfection in meditation. This is where most people get tripped up.

For me, it’s about feeling “different” …when the meditation ends.

I won’t tell you what that ‘feeling’ is. Or the “different.” You’ll have to find that out for yourself.

Words can’t adequately describe what meditation offers. If you find the ‘method’ that works for you, if you just lay back and listen, the results will come.

It’s a journey, a subtle calm that gently enters the mind and your daily life, a glorious life balm.

Meditation is also steeped in self-compassion. It’s a kind act to offer yourself, and with its benefits proves that self-love and inner work is not selfish, but necessary, for optimum wellness.

When you need it, meditation is there. That’s the joy and comfort. Forget about technique.

Just lay back, relax, listen and enjoy.








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  1. March 2nd, 2013 | Evgeny says:

    To mediate, find a quiet place, sit upright with your back straight, take a few deep breaths, relax all your muscles, clear your mind. Meditation can take many forms. In meditation the brain goes into a very quiet state. You can mediate on a mantran a spot of light, on nothing, on something, but stillness is the goal.

  2. July 2nd, 2013 | ゴローズ says:

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  3. April 12th, 2014 | Wendy Kay says:

    I LOVE it, Abby! “I meditate one way: My Way.”

    That’s the Best advice I’ve seen added into recommendations on meditating. There really is no other way for a person to do it; just try and see how it can work for you. You stating that, I believe will encourage more people to try it.

    Nice! 🙂

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