My #1 Tip To Calm Obsessive Worrying
“If an obsessive thought is a cry for help — and it is — bring the help that’s asked for.” – Deepak Chopra.
Finding comfort is a necessity when coping with obsessive worrying.
Everyone deals occasionally with thought patterns that spin. These are intrusive and annoying, but otherwise no big deal.
Obsessive worrying, when part of an anxiety disorder, can be a devastating and debilitating state of mind; one that can take over.
When Obsessive Worry Grows
There’s an urgency about obsessive worry that can be uncomfortable and palpable, almost physical in nature; you want to run from it, or smother it to the ground. Most of all, you want to survive it. It can be that painful.
“Your problem is not [only] that you are having intrusive thoughts,” says Robert L. Leahy Ph.D, “your problem is how you are evaluating them, how you are trying to suppress them, and how you avoid situations that evoke them.”
This is not to mention that, when out of control, obsessive worrying can cause a range of health problems. These include heart palpitations, digestive problems, shallow breathing – even trouble concentrating, to the extent that focusing on regular tasks seems impossible.
It’s a kind of paralysis, not unlike a state of depression; except in this case, the brain and its toxic thoughts seem to be on overdrive.
I don’t arrive at these conclusions only from my research, books, the internet or elsewhere.
I’ve been there.
Coping With Obsessive Worry
“Waiting out” worrying episodes that don’t relent is not courageous. It’s unnecessary. You have options:
- Report Symptoms to your doctor. Don’t sugarcoat your symptoms.
- Get Help. Talk to a therapist or friend to discuss your worries so that you can release, address and demystify them.
- Exercise. A 30 minute duration of strenuous exercise will raise endorphins and kick the steam out of a toxic thought pattern.
- What You Eat and drink. High fat, spicy, salty, and sweet foods – and alcohol – can make symptoms worse. Food affects mood.
- Sleep. Worrying is exhausting, and exhaustion promotes worry. Get some rest way you can, even naps.
- OCD and Excessive Worry. Concerned about the link? Read this.
- Comfort. There are many ways to relax. Start with this.
If You Need Relief Right NOW
When obsessive worry is out of control, and impossible to bear, my number one go-to is guided meditations.
“I can’t stand meditation, I can’t do meditation, I refuse to meditate,” you might say.
Guided meditation is not about ‘performance’. Nor about ‘liking’ it.
It is a godsend. It is a way to achieve to calm and relief when you most need it.
Having a meditative ‘guide’ is like having a loved one at your side, holding your hand, infusing you with calm. Your mind will be emptied of catastrophic thoughts, more rational thought will take its place, and with regular meditation practice you will develop resilience against obsessive worry in the future.
You may need to listen to several guided meditations in a row, or, one long one to find the comfort you seek. There may be trial and error, as not every guided meditation will resonate for you. And meditation is not a permanent fix.
But your breathing will mercifully slow. Your body will relax. All a huge relief when battling a thought storm.
Some Of My Favourite Guided Meditations For Extreme Worry
For restoring faith and trust in life: https://youtu.be/FiLKbvhxRvw
For letting go of (irrational) beliefs: https://youtu.be/KfEqviC7rwg
For a reality check about what obsessive thoughts are: https://youtu.be/1vx8iUvfyCY
For when assertiveness and self-compassion is required: https://youtu.be/WLRVFTkP0S0
And The Facts
Nothing is permanent. This cycle of obsessive worry you are experiencing will not last forever. Nothing lasts forever.
Besides, if you take action against repeated patterns of obsessive worrying you will be armed and ready in the future to combat this problem.
That, by itself, is tremendously reassuring.
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